A person is never the same after losing someone.

Hope & Reality

Hello guys, how are you all?

I hope all of you are good, and you should be too. But being good all the time is not always right. Sometimes being good breaks us. But the one who breaks and joins himself again is called a mystery. A mystery means that in life he was very sad, but still he definitely learned something. Look, in life breaking is also necessary and joining again is also necessary. The one who breaks and scatters becomes a pearl, and the one who scatters and joins himself again becomes a Kohinoor. Now it depends on you what you want to become — a pearl or a Kohinoor. Although pearls are also threaded again with strings and joined again, but a Kohinoor diamond takes a lot of time to become. It has to go through a fire test, it has to burn, it has to melt, and only then it comes out becoming bigger than even a diamond — a Kohinoor.

Main Point

Okay leave all these things, now I come to the main point. In life there are some people after meeting whom it feels like now everything will become okay. Their habits, their talks, their company slowly become a part of our life. We become so attached to them that after one point even imagining ourselves without them feels difficult. That is why we become so attached to them, we keep so many expectations from them that we forget ourselves. While before making others, we have to make ourselves first. We have to struggle ourselves. We have to build our future. We have to stand on our own feet. We have to become financially strong. Only then all these things should begin.

Betrayal & Lessons

If you start all these things before that, then you will break, you will get betrayed, many things will happen. But always remember, every person who comes into our life definitely teaches us something. But when that same person suddenly goes far away, then not only one relationship ends, but along with that person, a person’s laughter, trust, and peace also go away. After losing someone, a person never remains the same again. The one who used to smile on small things now starts remaining silent on every matter. He starts feeling loneliness even among people. At nights without reason he keeps thinking, crying, feeling pain, and slowly starts separating himself from the world.

Life & World

Although separating from the world is a good thing, but we still have to live in this world, fight with this world, learn from this world, and after seeing this world we have to leave again one day. But remember every pain comes to teach us something. Take it as a lesson, not as an emotion. Some people do not come into our life to stay forever. Some people only come to change us and then leave after changing us. Some people come to do favor on us and never even take credit for it. Some people come to destroy our life. And some people come like flowers who only come to spread fragrance because it is the nature of flowers to spread fragrance.

Healing

Yes, losing your loved one is never easy. But with time a person again learns to handle himself. He starts understanding that after one person leaves, his whole life does not end. He knows that he can start again. He knows if today exists then tomorrow will also come, if tomorrow exists then the day after tomorrow will also come. In the same way every year our calendar will keep changing and along with it our age will keep decreasing. We think our age is increasing, but in real life our age is decreasing day by day. It is becoming minus, not plus.

Self Trust

That is why before trusting anyone in life, learn to trust yourself. Before getting someone’s support in life, learn to support yourself. Before making someone happy, learn to make yourself happy. Before allowing someone to enter your life, first enter your own life. Know yourself. Accept yourself. Recognize yourself. Awaken your self-confidence. The day you win over your own self-confidence, from that day no one will be able to shake you.

Relationships

Yes, relationships will come, relationships will break, relationships will be made, relationships will also be fulfilled. Relationships will have sadness, relationships will have happiness, relationships will have closeness, relationships will also have distance, relationships will have trust, relationships will also have doubt, relationships will rise high, relationships will also go low. But the one who learned to handle himself, learned to make a relationship with himself, learned to find himself, learned to live for himself, then maybe he will never need any relationship.

Maturity & Change

But if still you feel loneliness, then definitely there is someone in your life who will change your life forever. But till then you have to shape yourself, understand yourself, know yourself, and do things for yourself. And the day you start all these things, from that day the day will also begin when that person will enter your life whom you were searching for since ages. Because before that you had to become mature, you had to become understanding. And the day you truly become understanding and truly shape yourself, then believe me such a change will come into your life, such a rise will come which you probably never even imagined.

Self Love

Till then know yourself, recognize yourself, do things for yourself, understand yourself, and love yourself. Look, coming and going, birth and death, all these things keep happening. There is no doubt in this. We do not stop our life because someone leaves. The truth is we stop ourselves. Do not stop yourself. Let yourself move ahead. Because the moment you stop yourself, maybe you stop your whole world. You do not need the outside world. You do not need love from outside. You do not need another person from outside. You need self-confidence from inside. You need self-reflection. You need self-analysis. Truthfully speaking, you need yourself.

Memories

Yes, it is true that if a person stayed with us for so many years and suddenly leaves us, then his memories, his laughter, his smile, his joking nature, everything always stays in our memories and it will remain too. But that person never says that you should stop yourself. That person while leaving also gave you courage that one day you also have to go there, but till then all the memories of that person that are coming into your life, instead of scattering them, spread them like flowers in your life. That person taught you that you also have to go there one day, but till then you have to live even more than before, just like you used to live earlier.

Moving Forward

And this is also true that after someone leaves, maybe for one month, six months, one year, two years, five years, ten years — for how many years will you keep remembering that person? Remembering is not wrong, but forgetting yourself is wrong. Making yourself the villain every time is wrong. Suppose you made a mistake, but if you truly regret it, then there is no need to burn every day. Move ahead. A new life is waiting for you. And yes remember many people in life are waiting with hope for you because the work that you can do, no one else can do. They are waiting for you. Just like when you move from one place to another place, people there are waiting for you too. You have to go. You have to move forward.

Freedom

In the end I just want to say this —

Now stop too, how long will you keep suffering?

Are we birds only made for suffering?

Open these chains now,

Now we are ready to fly.

Last Line

Do you know why no one loves you? Not because you are not worthy of love. But because they know that you do not love yourself.

So,

Love yourself.

Live for yourself.

Understand yourself.

Fight for yourself.

And whatever you want to do, first do it for yourself.

And yes remember, you were always worthy of love, you are worthy of love, and you will always remain worthy of love. 💗